Growing up with a parent who measured love and approval through achievement can leave deep, invisible marks. Whether it was grades, sports, appearance, or career milestones, the message was often subtle but clear: You are valued for what you do, not who you are. This kind of upbringing can create ...
Healing From Shame
“The ball is, as it were, in our court. God has invaded human history and reality. Jesus Christ has died on our behalf, is risen, and is now supervising events on earth toward an end that he will certainly bring to pass, to the glory of God. The issue now concerns what we will do.” - Dallas Willard, ...
The Family Wounds of Our Adopted Children
Imagine this scenario: You are moving away and will not be coming back. You have less than 10 minutes to pack 10 items or people to take with you. For example, ‘shoes’ do not count as 1 item. A singular ‘pair of shoes’ counts an item. Siblings or parents do not count as 1 person. You have to be ...
Parentification: When the Child Becomes the Parent
Family of origin wounds are a result of unmet emotional needs, neglect, or harmful patterns that exist within the family unit. In response to these experiences, children may develop coping mechanisms that can continue into adulthood, affecting their interactions and emotional well-being. One such ...
The Deep Wounds of Playing Favorites
Is there a “black sheep” in your family? One that’s not so much like the others, whether in personality, temperament, or even physically? Many families will deny the existence of a “black sheep,” often because the presence of a black sheep requires the balance of its counterpart, “The Favorite.” But ...
