In my work with clients through the years, I have learned that the essence of most core wounds is value and worth. When we experience trauma and other negative events (especially in childhood) we are often injured at the level of our worth. What this means is that we experience ourselves as less ...
The Wilderness: Where God Sees Your Wounds
El Roi -“The God Who Sees Me” “I’ve been forgotten, and my heart feels so heavy and weak. Why was I not enough? What could I have done differently? What did I do to be treated like this, or is this something I just deserved?”. These are just some of the things that I believe Hagar may have asked ...
Core Wound: I Am Unknown
As humans we desire to be known and connected intimately and deeply to others. This is evident in our evolution and integral in our psychological needs. We can see this in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, which depicts a five tier model of human needs in a hierarchical fashion. From the bottom of the ...
Core Wound: I Don’t Measure Up
I believe that at the core of every core wound is shame. Edward Welch provides an apt description of shame: “You are shunned. Faces are turned away from you. They ignore you, as if you didn’t exist. You are naked. Faces are turned toward you. They stare at you, as if you were hideous. ...
Core Wound: “I’m Defective”
In a nutshell, core beliefs are a person’s most central ideas about themselves, others, and the world. These beliefs act like a lens or pair of glasses through which every situation and life experience is seen. In cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), core beliefs are believed to underlie automatic ...
